A Deeper Look at “QTL - Quality Time Left”
Famous sports figures Wayne Heyzinga and Jimmy Johnson joked with each other once about “QTL” or “quality time left.” Both seniors, the men were referring to the idea that their time is finite, and they want to make the most out of their able years.
QTL was the theme of a previous blog post but this week I wanted to dive a little deeper, looking at a specific example. Then I’d like to provide tips for couples beginning to appreciate their days in this semi-post-Covid age.
Baby boomers are the largest generation alive today - and they’re all over 60. So baby boomers in particular are now really just starting to think about QTL. During these uncertain times it can be difficult for people to focus on the joys of life so it might help to look at the example of Dorothy Chiesa and her late husband John Attaya.
Dorothy remembers John as someone who never had a problem enjoying life. His agreeable temperament and curiosity made his life an adventure, and in turn touched the lives of his loved ones.
“He was the kind of guy that made sunny days sunnier...and rainy days sunnier!” laughed Dorothy.
Attaya’s key to enjoying quality time was very similar to mindfulness, which I’ve described in previous blogs. This essentially means living in the moment and enjoying the here and now, with a positive attitude.
“He was always present,” said Dorothy, “always curious about everything, and interested in everything.”
Living in the moment was how John enjoyed his later years with his wife to their fullest. This approach allowed him to not dwell on sadness and loss, but forge ahead towards a new day. Finally, though, his journey ended. Unfortunately the loss of such a positive force took a toll on Dorothy.
“I sunk into a dark hole and stayed there for 15 years. He was such a huge presence, he stayed with me for a very long time,” she explained.
But finally she started acting upon lessons she learned from the experience, and took pleasure in the things she wanted to do for herself.
“I was always a traveller and I’m finally coming into that after a long time,” said Dorothy, “I now want to travel all the time.”
Now Dorothy is a happy world traveller with a new appreciation for living in the moment. But she doesn’t just enjoy herself - like savoring the recent cruise she returned from - she also values deeper connections and learning other people’s stories. She suggests people not get too attached to money - especially when our later years are what we saved up for all that time. And Dorothy is simple and honest about what she wants from life.
“I want to be needed, and make people smile every chance I can.”
What’s her advice on QTL?
“Practice. Practice being in the moment every minute that you can.”
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